12 August2011
Backbiting means: To speak spitefully (ill feeling) or slanderously (insulting) about.
A backbiter is someone who uses their tongue against you, when you are not present, yet they will not face you, with their charges, when you are present. Backbiting is to speak ill of a person behind his back, concerning of matters relating to the character, physical appearance and personality. It is not only restricted to the usage of words, but also it includes the mean behavior and actions.
“Do not go about spreading slander among your people.” Leviticus 19:16
Backbiting is an awful mannerism which causes disgrace and embarrassment to other people and it is a serious and grave social offense. It leads to conflict between people.
“A backbiting tongue hath disquieted many, and driven them from nation to nation: strong cities hath it pulled down, and overthrown the houses of great men.”Eccelesastie 28:14
Backbiting nature is a destructive and disgusting weapon of the weak people, and commonly used by people with enmity, jealous nature and unreasonableness etc ,etc, to hide their own imperfections by speaking ill of others.
“They have become filled with every kind of wickedness, evil, greed and depravity. They are full of envy, murder, strife, deceit and malice. They are gossips, slanderers, God-haters, insolent, arrogant and boastful; they invent ways of doing evil; they disobey their parents; they have no understanding, no fidelity, no love, no mercy “ Romans 1:30
God wants us to be thoughtful and kind and to be careful in all our thoughts ,deeds ,words and action concerning everyone. This what God expects from us.
“Remind the people to be subject to rulers and authorities, to be obedient, to be ready to do whatever is good, to slander no one, to be peaceable and considerate, and always to be gentle toward everyone.” Titus 3:2
Those who indulge in backbiting are generally likely to misplace their self-respect and degrade themselves by resorting to a evil tactics.
A backbiter will talk about the person than talk to the person, usually either in a critical tone or with the words of encouragement, speaking in a deceitful way,.
But for sure, no one has ever been strengthened or enlightened through backbiting.
Read the verses and try to understand about backbiting and its consequences:
“Like a north wind that brings unexpected rain is a sly( cunning) tongue—which provokes a horrified look”. Proverbs 25:23
“Beware of the backbiters, especially the ones who sow discord among brethren” (Proverbs.6:19).
“Whoever conceals hatred with lying lips and spreads slander is a fool. (Proverbs 10:18.)
”Whoever slanders their neighbor in secret, I will put to silence; whoever has haughty eyes and a proud heart, I will not tolerate.( Psalm101:5.)
“In you are slanderers who are bent on shedding blood; in you are those who eat at the mountain shrines and commit lewd (rude) acts. (Ezekiel 22:9)
“A perverse person stirs up conflict, and a gossip separates close friends”. (Proverbs 16:28)
“Whoever goes about slandering reveals secrets, but he who is trustworthy in spirit keeps a thing covered. (Proverbs 11:13)
This is way of a backbiter who would stir -up the problem and magnify it, than trying to solve and to resolve it.
God warns us clearly:
”For by your words you will be acquitted, and by your words you will condemned.”(Mathew 12:37)
“….Your lips have spoken lies,Your tongue has muttered perversity.”( Isaiah 59:3)
“Be very careful, then, how you live—not as unwise but as wise, making the most of every opportunity, because the days are evil. Therefore do not be foolish, but understand what the Lord’s will is.Ephesians:15-18
“Let not a slanderer be established in the earth ;Let evil hunt the violent man to overthrow him.” Psalm 140:1
Let us be careful to find out such personalities.
Do not associate with backbiters and toxic people.
Always listen to your intuition and follow your heart.
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